James + Reece + Lola + Jessica

James + Reece + Lola + Jessica

Saturday, March 19, 2011

Twenty seven...


I look at these pictures and my brain screams OOMPA LOOMPA!!!
I particularly enjoy the horrified look on Lola's face.

Mother of pearl.

This pregnancy has been so different from my first in so many ways, but the most startling difference is the speed at which it seems to be passing.
It certainly helps to have a little sidekick occupying every free moment.
And when I say every free moment, I mean every free moment.

I can't even use the bathroom without Miss Lola standing at my side.

But I know it won't be that way forever, and I'm kind of loving the fact that my daughter thinks I'm so cool right now.
And as excited as I am to meet my son, I'm a little anxious about the prospect of dividing my time, love and attention between two babies.  Especially since #1 is the love of my life.

I'm sure these are completely normal thoughts that most second-time moms face.
But still...

Any advice on how to make the transition from one to two?
How do you keep the closeness you have with your first while developing that same closeness with your second?

I'm dying to hear your thoughts.

In other news, Lola and I are headed to St. George this week for some fun, sun and shopping.
Let's hope this bladder allows me to make the trip without stopping every 15 minutes.

Until next week!

12 comments:

Amy said...

World's most beautiful oompa loompa (if you insist on being an oompa loompa). I love the belly shots with sweet Lola, this little man is going to be a lucky one!

JeN!cE said...

I pretty much think you are the cutest prego person, hands down. & I dont see oompa loompa but for the sake of keeping you from crying, I know how it FEELS to FEEL like an oompa loompa and lady you are doing it with grace (if you insist on taggin yourself as one) LOL. Lola is an angel and your 2nd will be too. Im not sure how double kiddos works, I still only have one but it must work great or we would all be only children. I think the other good thing is that they will be in two stages of life, one new and the other in the "helper" stage (lucky mama, not even getting to go potty?!- oh man) I have no doubt that you will be fabulous as always in being a Mama to two. Congrats again girl. Love you.

Alexis said...

I had the EXACT same feelings right around the stage you're at. I remember crying about it and telling Matt and he didn't understand at all. For me, it wasn't something I ever really figured out how to deal with. Even when I was about to go in to be induced I was still struggling with those feelings but then he came out and everything was perfect and it really was just like he was there all along and the thoughts never crossed my mind again. But don't feel bad for having those feelings! I think Matt got worried when I told him how depressed I was that it wasn't going to be me and Livy anymore. But those feelings are totally normal.

Alysha and Jason Whiting said...

Solution: Just give Lola to Uncle Asson and Auntie Eesha. :) Just kidding, but even though I have no advice I just wanted to say that you are an amazing mother and such a wonderful example to me. I am so grateful to have such a loving and thoughtful and hardworking older sister. We are so excited for #2! I love you!

Stephanie Kay Moore said...

Oh my goodness I cannot believe how great you look! Seriosly! I was already starting to swell up at this point and looking back it is horrendous! haha Sorry you were so sick on St. Patty's Day!

Angie said...

My cousin just did a post on this very thing. She had a daughter first and her baby son is now 1 month old. I think you'd enjoy reading her post!

http://steveanddaynamagleby.blogspot.com/2011/03/vinny-turns-1-month.html

Jenna said...

Wow, I just wrote a NOVEL and Blogger ate it.

When the baby is born, he'll only need about 20% of your attention for the first few weeks. Lola will need 80%. Try not to worry about housework; spend lots and lots of time with her. She is going to expect life to go on as it always has so try to keep it as normal as possible. She wants to play puzzles or blocks? Put the baby in a bassinet, sling or on a blanket on the floor and play puzzles.

It also helps to include her in taking care of the baby. When you need to change him, have her bring you a diaper.

We bought Audrey a few new puzzles when Carson was born. Best. Choice. Ever. Made. They made her feel so loved and special and gave her something new to do while I nursed. Can't tell you how many times she did the Target 50 States puzzle on the floor while I breastfed. It was so great.

Also, she'll need one-on-one time with you. Have Reece or a family member watch the baby for 30-60 minutes while you take Lola to the park or to the store. She needs to know you're still HER mama.

Before you know it, Baby Boy will feel like he's always been part of your family and it'll be great. I found these helpful hints, passed on from my mom and other trusted mothers, to be the best advice ever. They really made the transition easy.

You are going to be great! No sweat!

Sarah said...

Before I had my second I felt the same way. I worried that I would be able to love the next child as much as the first. I could not imagine being able to love another person the way I loved her. I worried that she would know that I loved her as much as I always had. When our little boy was born, she was just as excited to meet him as we were, and it was love at first sight for her. I honestly can't even tell you what happened, it was like he was always part of our family. There will be a little bit of a transition, but I wouldn't worry too much, things will come together quicker than you think.

Amy and Andrew said...

you look darling!! and i am anxious to read comments left on your blog because im nervous about going from 1 to 2! i gota w hile im not pregnant but still!

Abby said...

i have the same concerns, so when you figure it out, do a post on it, k?

you look fetchin.

no, i'm not pregnant.

Lindsey Bell said...

isn't it funny how kids don't seem to notice their mommy's tummies growing? it doesn't even phase makenzie that i look like i am hiding something under my shirt...

Cory and Hilary Belnap said...

My mom says your heart has the ability to grow with love...you will be able to love your baby and still love Lola just as much as you do now!